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Your Relationship to Yourself Sets the Tone for Every Other Relationship in Your Life by Amy Young

If you have a conflicted relationship with BEING YOU, and being STUCK WITH YOU, for the rest of your EARTHLY EXISTENCE, I implore you to get curious, go inward, and start remedying that shit.


Think of this this way: If it's customary for you to ignore your own feelings, override your needs and desires, and devalue/criticize yourself...guess what,

you are approximately 10x more likely to tolerate it from other people.


Keep in mind that the way which life/society is currently designed *encourages* us to ignore our feelings, override our needs/desires, and devalue/criticize ourselves.

So don't freak out if that's where you're at — that's where most people are at!


When we aren't respecting or treating ourselves well, when other people are not respecting or treating us well, it feels like a jacked-up-but-cozy HOME BASE.

Like, "Ohhh this feels familiar (them overriding my boundaries)...the lack of interest in my all makes sense because WHOA — I do this to me too!"


We don't allow for it consciously, but unconsciously many of us are rolling out red carpets for people who simply do not have the capacity to care for us in the ways we deeply deserve and desire. And this doesn't just apply to romance. Once you wake up from a lifelong spell of self-mistreatment, you'll see these dynamics at work, with friends, family. It's insidious and very uncomfy...but, very essential if we wanna WAKE UPPP.


You can start setting a new tone right now by simply tuning into how you feel and self-validating ("It makes sense that I feel _____, because _______.") You can ask yourself what you need to make today a little easier for yourself, and ruthlessly prioritize it. You can start cherishing yourself and that which honestly matters most to you, instead of tossing yourself aside like some kind of human inconvenience. WHICH YOU ARE NOT!


If you want to change how someone else is showing up in your life, this 👆🏻is how you do it. We can’t shift relationships by controlling or changing others. We shift relationships by deciding that TREATING OURSELVES EXCEPTIONALLY WELL comes first from now on! 💯


Amy speaks, and teaches, and coaches so that we can all let out a collective sigh of relief in the recognition that ohmigah, we are so not alone! We are all in this together! And it’s actually okay to lighten up, to let go of what isn’t serving us, to own our unique personal greatness, to give all the right fucks in all the right places, and to take existence by the horns.

Amy wants to support you in shedding the layers of everything that you are not so it feels easier to show up as who you really are. Amy wants you to like yourself and love your life and get legitimately excited about the future you are creating.

If you're interested in working with Amy, visit here.

On April 22nd 2020, Amy and I have a conversation on IG LIVE at 8:30 pm EST on my page @deebird20 and we discuss Amy's imprint of service in the world.

To listen to the conversation, click here!

Thank you for your constant support in my mission to spread holistic healing education, tools, and skill across the world!

All the love,



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